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How to Find Recognition — for Projectors

It took me 3 years to gain my own self-recognition. During that time, I was confused about what I was meant to do, who I was meant to be, how I helped people, and what I was even good at.

But feeling confused didn’t stop me. It meant I wasn’t there yet, I wasn’t an expert…yet.

And during those 3 years, I wasn’t focused on just one thing, first I had to find the thing that interested me. Which took trial and error. I found a lot of things I didn’t want to do. But I also found the things I did want to do.

I continued to learn about the things that continued to interest me. And through the continual learning, tweaking, and learning cycle, I found where I felt most at home. Where it felt like it was fun. Where I was happiest and feeling most motivated.

That is using Human Design in Business.

I learned all areas of Human Design. And yes, I can talk about it. I can help people understand the basics of Human Design, relationships with Human Design, Manifestation with Human Design (this one is actually still a part of my unique process), but none of those were the end goal.

I’m an entrepreneurial spirit. I love – and I mean LOVE – talking about business with people. Setting up their business, recalibrating it when they are having a hard time making sales, all kinds of things.

I love helping people learn how they can better help their own clients.

During the 3 years of trial and error, I had wondered what size of an audience I wanted in the future. Whether it was millions or thousands. And at first, I thought it was millions. But honestly, I want to indirectly help millions. I want to be the person who helps others impact millions.

So I don’t need to be known far and wide. I just want to help the people that impact others.

You can see how through this trial and error process, through this tweaking process, and through my studies, I’ve found (1) how I want to help people, (2) what I want to be known for, and (3) who I want to impact directly and indirectly.

And it all feels good. It feels right. It feels fun.

And not just surface-level fun that every business coach says because it’s a buzzword. Fun, like I’m happy to do it, I’m eager to start, I’m losing myself in the time I spend doing it because time falls away. True fun.

That is how I now see myself. That is my personal recognition.

It took time, but it was worth it.

Recognition for Projectors comes first from within.

What do you want to be recognized for? What do you want people to see from you? What makes you feel like you’re being seen?

Recognition coming from within isn’t knowing everything about yourself.

It’s knowing what you want to do. It’s knowing what you’re great at.

If you don’t have that self-recognition yet, keep learning, keep studying, keep following your bliss. Recognition will come to you through watching yourself learn the information you’re meant to learn + master the systems or processes that interest you.

So when you’re on your way to recognizing yourself, remember that it’s okay to feel confused, lost, and frustrated. You’re still heading towards your recognition. You’re still heading towards being the expert. You’re still going to find the fun at the end of the tunnel.

It’s okay to feel like it’s taking forever. Just don’t give up.

You can, and will, find it.

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Creating a Business You Love Isn’t Just About What You Do — It’s Also About How You Do It

The untold side of the entrepreneur journey.

When I first started my business, I was lost. I knew I wanted to be an entrepreneur, but I honestly had no idea what I wanted to do to be an entrepreneur.

Luckily, you really only need a skill, knowledge, or experience in an area that’s further along than someone else in the world. Past that, you can create value around it.

For me, that looked like coaching, guiding, mentoring, and helping people navigate the failures I’ve already encountered throughout my own life. And then I spoke as well about my own battle with not fitting in, depression, and feeling like there was no one else like me. So it was a mix of inspirational content, self-help experience, and knowledge sharing.

But even though I knew what I was sharing (which is a feat of it’s own if you’re a new entrepreneur), HOW I was to share it was completely baffling. And even to this day, I can’t say that I figured it out quickly — because I sit here with almost 3 years of entrepreneurship under my belt and I only figured it out after 2 to 2.5.

Quick? No. Painful? Yes. Worth it? You bet.

So here are 3 helpful tips I learned about how entrepreneurship isn’t just about what you do, but also how. And hopefully, I can help save you the time and energy needed to figure this all out.

1. Even when you know what you do, explaining it can be a different beast.

It’s not enough to know what you do, because if you’re on your way to monetizing it, others have to understand it too. So you have to explain it.

I’m not saying you need the perfect elevator pitch (which doesn’t exist in my book), but you do need a handful of ways to say it that make sense.

For instance, not everyone will need the details, and not everyone needs the broad sentence. The difference is who and when you say them.

When your friends and family ask you what you’re doing, be broader (unless you find they’re really interested). This can sound like “I write online about entrepreneurship,” or “I guide people to creating their online business.”

As you can see, those are two general statements that make sense to the general population.

But when you’re in front of your ideal audience, be more specific. Such as “I use Human Design to help new entrepreneurs build an aligned, sustainable business,” or “I help new entrepreneurs build an online business that doesn’t cause burnout using Human Design.”

Both of those help my target audience understand what I truly do. And even then, I’m curating those for this particular platform.

It doesn’t matter what you say, as long as it’s understood. And you can always tweak this when necessary, so don’t spend too much time thinking about it. Get into conversations with your friends and family and just say what resonates in the moment. Over time, you’ll find the words that better describe it and it’ll become a more clear and concise phrase.

2. Past explaining what you do, what way do you want people to find you

This one caused me the most inner turmoil. I didn’t understand what this meant.

I kept hearing other business coaches and gurus saying to “follow your audience.”

That never worked for me. In fact, it was much more draining, exhausting, and caused me burnout (which is why I create content that challenges these streamlined pieces of advice).

It wasn’t until I started listening to my own energy and following where I felt comfortable and free that I saw success. And that took me years to figure out.

So how do you know when you’ve found the place for you?

Ask yourself these questions:

  • How do I feel when creating for this platform?
  • How do I feel after creating for this platform?
  • Do I genuinely enjoy this platform or am I forcing myself to do it?
  • What decision is the more loving decision: to stay on this platform or to leave it?

Don’t just consult your mind on this, feel into your body. How does your energy feel when you think about those questions? (If you know your Human Design Authority, consult that).

The point is, if you don’t love the way you do your day-to-day business actions, you won’t create a business you love. And that’s not fluff, that’s fact.

Keeping the end goal in mind, what kind of business do you want to build? And what support do you want to help you in sustaining it?

I’m not saying to stop doing the things you need to right now, I’m simply bringing the different possibilities to awareness. And if it feels good, continue on with it! If not, consider checking other things out.

3. Where do you feel like you truly thrive?

I started on Youtube, then Instagram, then Facebook, then TikTok, then Medium, then Blogging, then Podcast… and I switched back and forth interchangeably through these at different times trying to figure out what fit me. More so where I felt like I was free to be me.

Don’t knock it until you try it out, because resistance is a great signpost for what to look into. But also, don’t force yourself into a box that you don’t even want to be in.

Youtube was nice, still is. I just don’t want to dedicate my time there right now, though I know I probably will add it in the future again.

TikTok wasn’t my cup of tea, but I don’t mind posting every once in a while when I feel called to.

Video isn’t bad for me, but it also requires more energy from me. And as a Self-Projector in Human Design, I need to conserve my energy more than most people.

Facebook and Instagram were time-zaps for me and made me feel more bitter than anything good. I still have them for when people decide to join my community, but that’s really all I use them for anymore — community.

Now we get into my zones: Podcast, Blogging, Medium. I’m a writer at heart, and I resisted it for many, many years. But as soon as I finally allowed myself to truly test it out, it’s rapidly become my favorite thing to do.

Podcasting is another because it’s my own platform to just speak about my ideas and experiences and find new people like me who are interested in what I’m interested in.

I love being able to share my thoughts both with the written word and the spoken word. And as a Self-Projector in Human Design, that’s very aligned for my energy. (Believe me, if I had known about Human Design sooner I would’ve saved myself some huge headaches!)

These are the places I’ve found that I thrive. And I had to test them all out to see what felt good and how I truly enjoyed sharing my knowledge.

And it will be the same for you.

Final thoughts

Not everything will work for you, but something will.

I constantly say that everyone could be an entrepreneur. And I 10000% believe that to be true. But I also know that not everyone wants to be an entrepreneur, and not everyone is willing to put in the work to become an entrepreneur.

Either way, if you have this dream and you’re willing to do it, fail, persevere, and keep going, you will find success with it. Anyone who tells you it isn’t possible to build a business you love hasn’t been able to do it for themselves yet. Don’t let their projections sway you.

People only truly believe what they’ve done themselves. So find small ways to win, take comfort in the small successes, and keep going. Be your own best cheerleader, and cultivate your content consumption like your life depends on it. Spend time reading inspiration, not demotivation. Then put your desire into action. Take the steps. Move forward.

And you’ll inevitably get there, no matter what anyone else says or believes.

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Having Health Issues?

Let me start this by saying I’m not a doctor. I’m not anyone who claims to have expert opinions on your health, etc. However, I am a person who suffers from MANY ailments and health issues. And I’ve had to drudge my way through all the misinformation (yes, even from doctors) to try and figure out how I can actually live a healthy life again.

The reason I’m putting this on my blog is not because I talk about these things very often, at least as of right now, but because I’ve struggled and suffered for 11 years with chronic pain, celiac disease, joint pain, bloating, dairy and egg allergies, chronic headaches, tension, muscle spasms, and all sorts of other unhealthy things.

I’m only 27.

So how the heck is all of this happening to me at a “young age”? Yeah, I get that alot.

“But you’re so young” was a saying from Psoriasis patients getting tar treatments while I was in the outpatient center before my celiac disease with dermatitis was diagnosed. I was 16 at the time.

Going from perfectly healthy one day to (literally) not the next, I’ve had my fair share of misdiagnoses, shutdowns from doctors who didn’t listen to me about what was happening to my body, and much more.

So let’s just say, it’s been a long road. And I may have found the ultimate reason for all of my ailments.

Lectins

As I’ve said already, I have celiac disease. Which means I can’t have gluten because it kills my gut.

Well, 7 years after that diagnosis and I wasn’t getting much better — even though gluten was completely cut out of my diet. There was improvement, but it wasn’t as much as would’ve been considered “good.”

I found then that Dairy had the same effect. So I eliminated it.

Then a year after that, still not that much of a change but a bit better, found out eggs was also making me breakout.

And now 2 years after those have been entirely eliminated, I’m still bloated, I still feel tired all the time, my stomach hurts, headaches, etc. I’m not breaking out as much because the medication I’ve been on (called Dapsone) has helped my body fight it. But as soon as I DON’T have the medication for a day or two, I break out a ton still.

So this led me to thinking “what else could it possibly be??”

And I started really being more mindful of not only what I was eating, but how I FELT after I ate it.

Then, my friend shared with me someone she had found, a doctor, talking about what may be causing your health issues, autoimmune disease, psoriasis, arthritis, etc.

And, you guessed it, he was talking about LECTINS.

The Plant’s Protection

In order for plants to not be eaten by predators, they create chemicals to protect their seeds. Plants can’t just get up and fight an animal off or run away — they have to do what they can.

This is why we eat the ripe berries and not the unripe berries. Ripe is when the seeds are ready to be transported to get fertilized and re-sprout on their own elsewhere.

So, the protection that the plants create is a protein called a Lectin.

It’s mainly in the seeds and skin of a plant. It’s not in all plants, but certain ones, especially ones grown here in the USA.

Think about it — thousands of years ago, we didn’t live in North America. And those who lived here before us had a very specific way of eating things like beans (they fermented them to kill the lectins) and they didn’t eat wheat, etc.

So especially in the Americas, the plants are still relatively new to our bodies and our evolution of understanding them. Regardless of what people like to believe with their ego about us knowing everything about what we have or don’t have and what we know or don’t know.

Anyways, you remember how I said I also found that Dairy and Eggs were affecting me right?

Well, guess what’s on the list of things containing Lectins. (Eggs themselves have Caesin A1, as well as cow’s milk, because thanks to big processing and steroids and controlled and forced farming)

So how did this research about Lectins come about?

Dr. Steven Gundry

A highly esteemed and very well accomplished heart surgeon (of over 10,000 heart surgeries) actually noticed that patients who were eating what’s been touted as “healthy” actually had more problems than people who smoked cigarettes.

Okay, what?

What are we saying is the “healthy” diet here? You know how when you were younger you were told that Fats were bad, Whole Grains were good, have a glass of Dairy a day, etc.

That.

That’s the “healthy” diet we’re talking about.

The diet that’s been approved widely in America.

And there’s many studies, Dr. Gundry talks about it in his interviews, but what’s the point?

The point is that what’s been said is “healthy” actually has the highest lectin count. And this “healthy” diet is leading to ALL sorts of diseases now that there’s been an abundance of time to test it out – around 40 to 50 years now.

And guess what? We’re all getting sicker and sicker.

What are some of the Lectin filled foods?

Just to name a few:

  • Wheat
  • Barley
  • Soy
  • Corn
  • Bell Peppers
  • Potatoes
  • Yogurt
  • Beans
  • Lentils
  • Rice
  • Peas
  • Tofu
  • Zucchini

The list goes on.

What are some of the foods on the “Yes” List?

  • Asparagus
  • 100% Grass-fed and finished Beef
  • Basil
  • Cabbage
  • Spinach
  • Sweet Potatoes (without skin)
  • Millet
  • Almond (blanched)
  • Hemp tofu
  • Tempeh
  • Pastured Chicken and other Poultry
  • Wild caught Seafood
  • Coffee

And much more.

You can read the Yes/No list on Dr. Gundry’s website here: https://gundrymd.com/dr-gundry-diet-food-list/

So what does this mean?

If you’re having health issues with no logical reason as to why, check to see what you’re eating first. Because you feed your gut, then your gut provides energy for your body. If something is going wrong in your gut, your body will be affected.

But the great news is, you can either cure, put into remission, or get rid of symptoms if you find the root cause.

All the ailments I mentioned in the beginning have been helped and improved to a wildly amazing percent of patients who have switched their lifestyle to being lectin-free.

Perhaps it will help you too.

I know I’m in.

I’m ready to be done struggling and suffering every day. I’m ready to be out of pain again after 11 years.

I’m ready to be healthy again, feeling better, and just being able to live my life without medication, doctors, and getting my bloodwork done to make sure my medication isn’t harming me more than it’s helping me.

I’m ready for a life of freedom from health issues.

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On Consistency and Sticking to a Schedule

This is going to be such an unpopular opinion that I almost decided not to write this. However, it’s important for you to know, just in case you’re like me.

Over the last 30 days, I’ve made a schedule for myself.

My goal was to write a blog post every day, even if it turned out to be a shitty post.

My personal daily structure was that I was going to allow myself to freedom to flow through my days, without forcing myself to do anything.

Needless to say, I didn’t write every day. BUT it’s not because of what you might think.

“Laziness”

There’s so much collective pain and conditioning around “Resting” that it’s been labelled as “Laziness” when people take a day off, choose to NOT do something, or are sitting down to take a breather from life.

Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s a line between laziness and resting, but that line isn’t so black and white.

Mainly, speaking in Human Design terms, anyone without a defined motor center needs more rest than others.

And anyone without a defined Ego center doesn’t have access to consistent Willpower and Motivation.

What does that mean?

My experience

Just so we’re both on the same page, I have NO motor centers. And my Ego center is NOT defined.

So when I told myself for the umpteenth time that I was “finally going to be consistent”, I was setting myself up for failure.

Consistency ISN’T in my nature. It’s not a natural thing for my energy.

So though I was able to crank out a few posts at the beginning of the month, gaining a 5 day or so streak, I was so happy and proud of myself!

Then day 7 happened…

And day 8…

On day 9 I posted again.

Then day 10 happened…

Day 11 I posted again.

Day 12 I posted again.

Then radio silence for about a week.

And it wasn’t that I couldn’t sit down and write. I had all the time I needed. I had the availability for it. And it’s not like I was sitting around just watching Netflix.

But the thing was, my energy had moved on.

I was focusing on learning instead.

My energy went from exporting to importing. For no reason other than that’s what felt RIGHT. That’s what came easily to me.

Consistency is an illusion

Honestly, only people with defined Ego centers are the ones that have the energy for consistency. It doesn’t take too much for the Ego center’s motor to be turned into “on” mode.

However, every OTHER center, needs the right conditions.

Inconsistency is labelled as “bad” or “lazy”.

“Sometimes you just gotta push through”.

Insert any other “hustle-mindset” phrases here.

But why do you want to push yourself to do something if in the moment you hate doing it right then and you have no energy to do it?

That feeling of no energy and force is going to show through in your work anyways!

So it’s like you force yourself to do it, only to have THOSE things that you did be the ones you’re needing to re-tweak or re-record or re-write at a different time because you weren’t happy with the end result anyways.

Why not wait for the creative wave to come back around and then you just create as much as you want to and SAVE some for the time when, inevitably, you’ll feel uninspired to do it?

Creativity IS a wave.

And choosing to celebrate the down time is JUST as important as celebrating the UP time.

I didn’t stop writing because I had nothing to say

I stopped writing because what I would’ve said wouldn’t have been as good in THAT moment as if I would’ve waited until the right time.

I have more than a handful of things that I’m doing/learning/creating at any given time.

I’m not a Manifesting Generator (someone who can and is meant to be multitasking). But I have a need for variety.

The difference between us is that I have a list of things to choose from in the moment, and I’m NEVER doing more than one at a time.

There are days I sing and learn French.

Then there are days that I don’t do that but I work on my business.

There are days that I go out.

There are days that I stay in and rest.

I learn in my free time. Brainstorm. Rest myself. And prepare myself for the next wave when my energy comes back.

I find that I create better, faster, more efficiently, and more happily doing all of this.

I never get bored. And even if I did, I know my list to choose from or how to find new things to try out.

And most of all, I don’t get BURNOUT anymore.

Consistency Burnout

Be honest, how many times have you felt burnout?

Now how often is that burnout linked to doing things you didn’t want to do in that moment?

If you haven’t discovered this pattern yet, pay attention the next time you feel burned out!

It’ll likely be because of things you don’t want to do (i.e. don’t have the energy for in that moment!), a collection of moments that you’re forcing yourself to do something you really don’t want to do, or even forcing yourself to do anything.

The ONLY times we get burnout from things we actually ENJOY are when we over-indulge ourselves in them. So perhaps that’s a thing for you too.

But, my point is, pay attention to where your burnout comes from and where it starts. You’ll be surprised!

And guess what?

You have 100% control of your life to CHANGE whatever is causing you burnout.

There are ways around it, ways to uplift you during it, ways to work with it, or even just the good-ol “saying no” works wonders as well.

It’s not “Batching”, it’s “Conserving”

I used to HATE the thought of batching content or batching anything.

But honestly, it’s the bees-knees — WHEN IT’S DONE CORRECTLY.

Again, just like we’re saying no to forcing in the moment, DON’T force yourself to batch.

Follow your energy. Batch during your Ups rather than your Downs.

If you have a creative wave with actually putting out content, create a system to help you automatically do that.

If you need to batch your budgeting or your tasks, do that.

Do whatever your energy leads you to do. Cut the things that aren’t necessary. And prioritize YOU.

My own consistency change

I’ve grown to enjoy my inconsistency.

Why are algorithms more important than my own health? They’re not.

I already know that I will create what I’m meant to create. So then why am I pushing?

There’s no deadline. And with an undefined Root center, I hate deadlines. They don’t help me at all, they just give me unnecessary pressure.

I follow what feels right. What flows right.

And if I need a day of full-relaxation, that’s not a bad thing. That’s SO helpful!

When I’m relaxing, I have some of my BEST ideas.

That’s a trend in my own energy that’s reliable. THAT is MY consistency.

As well as I’m a morning person. I like my mornings, I get a lot done.

It doesn’t matter what I’m getting done, I just get a lot done that I need to that day. That’s also MY consistency.

Just because it doesn’t fit the standards of “normal” consistency, doesn’t mean it’s wrong.

And that goes for you, too.

So what’s something you’ve been burning yourself out on that you’re ready to release?

What’s a way you’re inconsistent that actually works WITH your energy?

And what are your ways of being consistent that matter to you?

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Confused on What to Do? Here’s a Way Out

Confusion usually comes up for us when we are resisting something.

We ALWAYS know what’s best for us and what’s the right next step for us. We’re Co-Creators in our lives. We have the 100% choice on what we do and when. And if you think about it, when you finally decide something, how long does it take for you to implement? Not very long (at least as long as you don’t allow fear or worry to stop you, but that’s a topic for a different time).

Confusion, when it’s about our own path, seems like we need more information before we can make a decision. However, more information actually leads to analysis paralysis.

Because whatever you WANT to do will have information to support it. But there will ALSO be information that is unsupportive.

That’s why we tend to have confirmation bias; where when we’re looking for supportive information of our opinion or desire, we find it and take it as truth, because it was what we WANTED to find. We’ll go deeper into confirmation bias in the future as well.

But there’s a few things that can help you get unstuck or out of the confusion quicker than simply “waiting” for the answer.

Ask yourself questions to journal

We can’t process things completely in our minds — even though our minds like to think we can. But just check in with how many times only processing in your mind has actually led you to the right answer. My guess is that you either weren’t able to finish processing OR you got into overthinking and decided to either do nothing or you acted impulsively.

No shame, no guilt. It just is what it is and it’s the same for everyone.

So to get out of this loop, break out a piece of paper and get writing.

Transferring your thoughts to paper not only help you see it outside of you, but it gives you a new perspective on it as a whole when you can then process the information you PREFER to write down.

The way you write something is slightly different than the way you speak or think about it.

That’s why some people are speakers and some people are writers. Usually you have a preference of one or the other.

And if you’re a speaker and prefer to process out loud, find yourself a trusted friend or advisor to help hear you out, NOT TO INSERT THEIR OPINION, but to simply help you get out what you need to and ask you questions to help you find your truth.

This is actually a very big reason people hire coaches; because coaches (depending on the coach, that is) but for the most part, coaches are there to help guide you to your core truth. That’s at least what I do as a coach, because NO ONE knows what you want to do more than you. There’s just mental blocks or something in the way, and I help remove that block.

Anyways back to the point.

Get your thoughts out of your head. Whether that’s in a journal or with someone else who you can trust to help you get to your core truth.

What questions can I ask myself?

The questions you ask yourself heavily depend on the situation you’re going through, but here’s a few generic ones that usually work for MOST situations.

  • What am I deciding?
  • Why is this decision important?
  • What is my fear for choosing either option? (or all the options, however many there are, what are the fears for each option?)
  • Which option would I choose if there were no negative consequences and it went as well as it could?
  • What part of me is telling me that I can’t go this way or that it won’t go well?

Essentially, you’re going to be looking for any catastrophizing, any limiting beliefs, any ego fears for safety from perceived danger, etc.

You could even give these questions to your trusted person to ask you as well.

And make sure you’re being 100% honest with yourself as well! If you aren’t fully honest and open about your answers, you’ll be keeping yourself in confusion and just wasing your time. So be 100% open and honest with yourself!

What if journaling it out doesn’t help?

If journaling it out doesn’t help, there are either of two things that can be at play here.

1. You might not be 100% open and honest in your answers.

When you’re being truly open and honest in your journaling session, you can find the root cause of the confusion. But some people aren’t used to this type of deep dive within themselves yet, and that’s okay. If it’s not working for you, it may be time to get someone to process with you, such as a friend, a close family member, a coach, a therapist, whoever you trust to help you walk through the situation and help you find the blocks and remove them. Remember: without their personal bias or opinion.

2. You may be too close to the situation to see it clearly.

Again, this happens to everyone. There’s things I go to my coach about, and things I process through myself. It just depends on what it is. So if you’ve tried journaling it out and it doesn’t work, don’t blame yourself for not being able to figure it out. It’s normal. And most likely, it just means that you deeply care about the situation. That’s a good thing! But not being able to see it clearly and make a decision is even more important in these instances. So find some support! Call your best friend. Schedule a coffee chat with them. Do something with the person you trust and ask if they can help you process this situation.

I know there’s a handful of people that don’t like seeking out help, but let me lovingly point out that not seeking out help is actually limiting you from making strides forward in your life. Would you rather stay stagnant and unable to make this decision for an indeterminate amount of time? Or put the pride aside and ask for help to figure it out much quicker?

But if you’re still against asking for help, here’s another way that’s really helped me and my clients in the past.

Commit to a “Day of Total Presence

This is what I called it when I did this for myself the first time and the name just stuck from then on when I recommended it to my clients and friends.

A Day of Total Presence is exactly what it sounds like. Let me explain.

You know how most of the time we’re on autopilot going through our day? Or we get constantly distracted by social media, people, thinking about the past, worrying about the future, all that super fun stuff?

A Day of Total Presence is the exact opposite.

It’s where you commit from morning to night to be present in the moment of what you’re doing.

Where when you drink your coffee in the morning, you are solely focused on drinking that cup of coffee.

When you’re scrolling on social media, you’re focused on each post that you scroll by.

And as you go through this day, you don’t plan ahead. You just FLOW with what you want to do, when you want to do it.

Meaning mindless tv is out the window! If you’re watching tv, you’re focused and actually WATCHING it.

Nothing in this day is autopilot. At least to the best of your ability.

Why a Day of Total Presence?

When we spend too much time in the past or the future, we lose focus and meaning of what NOW is.

Except, everything that is reality is happening NOW.

So bringing yourself back into the present moment reconnects you to WHO. YOU. ARE.

Confusion is based on the fact that we don’t know which way to go. Which to some degree, means we don’t know who we are.

Think about it. If you’re a singer, you sing. If you’re a writer, you write.

If you’re the type of person who drinks coffee, you drink coffee. If you’re the type of person who hangs out with their friends on the weekend, that’s exactly what you do.

Confusion about a decision comes from not knowing which identity we want to be. A person who does the thing, or a person who doesn’t and does the other thing.

And you’ll find that if you feel exhausted, drained, burned out, etc. most of the time, it’s because you actually DON’T want to do the thing you’re forcing yourself to do.

And noticing this brings up all sorts of limiting beliefs, which we won’t go into here because that’s a long list, but recognize that if you’re feeling this way, you may be ready to stop doing it or choose something else.

I’ll gve you an example from my own life.

What does this look like?

I had to take a Day of Total Presence recently because I had set myself a morning and day routine but I just felt SO exhausted and drained of energy, that I didn’t end up doing ANY of it.

Through my own journaling I found that I was dreading the routine, but I couldn’t figure out why.

So I decided to take this day to reconnect with myself.

I did everything that day intentionally, I allowed myself the freedom to do whatever I wanted to do.

I ended up starting to learn a new language, starting to look up singing practices, and got rid of my entire routine that I had mentally chosen before this day.

I noticed what I did that day and when.

I then took THAT day and structured it as my new routine. Because clearly, that’s the way my energy was flowing best and having the most fun.

And low and behold — ALL of my exhaustion went away. I was no longer drained. I had energy and excitement to do the things I wanted to.

And ALL of this came from just one day of total presence.

I know that eventually when my energy shifts again, it’ll be time to take another day of total presence to figure out how to structure it next. It’s an ever-flowing process because you’re an ever-changing human being.

You aren’t the same person you were a year ago. And if you are, it may be time for a change or a refresh.

The bottom line

When you feel confused, you don’t need to tell yourself “I don’t know!” or “I can’t figure it out!”

Because yes, you can. It’s just whether or not you will ALLOW yourself to figure it out.

I’ve just given you three fantastic tools.

Put them into use and see how your life changes and shifts to be what you truly want.

So, have you tried any of these before? Or have you found something that helps you out of confusion that I didn’t add to this list? Let me know!

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What I Wish I Knew About Entrepreneurship Before I Started

I wish someone would have told me how hard entrepreneurship was.

Not that I wanted it to stop me from pursuing it, but I wish I would’ve had a more realistic view of what was to come — perhaps my mental health wouldn’t have suffered so much.

We are shown such a grandiose version of entrepreneurship that it brings the “grass is always greener” saying to my mind.

Entrepreneurship isn’t fast. Isn’t easy. And it isn’t glamorous.

It’s real. It’s difficult. It takes time.

But it’s worth it.

That picture right there… the real, raw, authentic explanation of what entrepreneurship really is could’ve helped my mindset as I was “failing” for 2 years straight.

Every day was the same:

  • Coffee
  • Set out to tackle the day’s tasks like learning marketing or learning how to sell without feeling sleazy
  • Getting crickets back from an almost non-existent audience (because other entrepreneurs who were trying to pitch me their services flooded my follower-count, making my actual followers not see my content first)
  • Taking it personally because I was shown that “entrepreneurship is easy”
  • Feeling like a massive failure
  • Day after day
  • Hour after hour
  • And suffering mentally and emotionally because of it

Lather. Rinse. Repeat.

Over and over and over again.

I honestly have no idea how I kept going for 730 days straight in that cycle. But I did. More actually. And if you’re reading this, I’m willing to bet you’re right where I was too.

Feeling lied to by the people who market entrepreneurship as something so easy that it happens within a month to 3 or even 6 months.

But that’s not even close to reality.

In reality, many businesses are lucky to break even in their first year — because most don’t. And the second year, it’s the same. In the third year, that’s when you’re statistically supposed to start seeing profits.

But that’s not what we hear about.

So I decided to stop everything and reevaluate.

I’m no longer putting my time or effort in places that don’t feel correct for my energy or spending another dollar on yet another copy-paste course that is going to tell me the same thing every other one is.

I’m done.

Not with entrepreneurship; I’m done with the way anyone else tells me to do entrepreneurship.

What do I want to do?

I’m a writer.

Okay. Anything else? I like speaking out loud and talking about my insights.

Okay. Good. Two things.

Two things that are me. Not my business, just me.

What do I think this will do?

Honestly, I have no idea. I don’t have any expectations specifically, and here’s why.

I can’t predict what others are going to want to hear from me. I can only see what they like hearing about from me.

Data.

Meaning I’m not “failing,” because I didn’t do what the course said or what the ‘guru’ was saying to do.

There’s no way to fail here.

Because whether I want to talk about my thoughts and way of thinking; my food allergies and how I live by being gluten-free, dairy-free, and egg-free; my love of the beaches, my memories at the lake, or my fictional stories based on real events; or even my insights with Human Design, Manifestation, or just Business with being someone who doesn’t fit into the norm of society.

Who knows what will entertain or inform or illuminate?

But I’d like to find out.

And maybe, business won’t have to be as hard as it seems, when I’m doing what I want to do regardless of the system that entrepreneurship seems to be functioning within.

And maybe, just maybe, that’s what you want to try too.

This article was originally published on Medium by Lillith Elaina.